Think of Failure as a Great Teacher, Not a Finality
I was at the grocery store the other day doing my normal market shopping, in my own zone, doing my thing. (Can you tell I don’t like grocery shopping? For me, it’s a get in, get what I need and get out event.) Anyhow, I was pulled out of my zone when I heard the words, “I CAN’T”. This from two women loudly discussing one of the women’s perceived inability to lose weight. I did not flash a look of utter disbelief, but kept my cool, smiled and walked on by.
I’m always stunned when I overhear the words “I Can’t.”
Seriously, I kept saying to myself, “This poor woman has already FAILED.” She had manifested the words into reality. Her strong and emphatic “I Can’t” kept sticking to me like a thorn in my heel.
Of course, I don’t know, nor do I pretend to know how many times this woman had attempted to lose weight nor was I passing judgment. It simply sounded like this goal was no longer a priority to her. It sounded like she had decided to give up. She had already Quit, Failed and believed in her inability to achieve her goal.
Just like it happens for 99% of most people, this woman was already certain that losing weight was never going to be a reality for her. Most people refuse to get past their own excuses and old beliefs. I want to tell you to “Get Over Yourself.”
What I wanted to do was go back to that aisle in the supermarket grab her and shake some sense into her. I wanted to tell her to quit making excuses. I wanted to tell her what I’m telling you: Failure is temporary. It is a fight of perseverance. It’s about discovering who you are deep down inside. Failure is about picking yourself up by the boot strap and doing whatever it is you’re doing however many times you must until you actually see the results you want manifested in your life.
You will get the shit kicked out of you by life if you are so afraid of failure that you decide not to fight it out. Failure loves to hear the words “I can’t.”
What if you look at failure in a new light? What if you decide right now that failure is the motivation to do things different? What if you begin to believe and live like failure is perfection in progress? What if you could learn how to fail effectively? What if your goal was to fail spectacularly? At least you would be doing something and eventually you would get over that hump that appears to be failure and realize success!
I know the power of this mindset. I struggled, I scratched and clawed my way out of the deepest parts of my being. I believed I could do it. I had to manifest it into my mindset.
Let me share this with you from one of my favorite teachers, Denis Waitley: “Failure is our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”