Every person has felt like a failure at some point in their life.
Maybe you missed a work deadline. Or screwed up a recipe for a meal that you had been wanting to try.
Failure does happen, but it does not have to take over. If you fail at one thing, you can still excel at the next. Use that failure to fuel your fire.
Do not let it keep you down.
Let me share this with you from one of my favorite teachers, Denis Waitley: “Failure is our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
I was at the grocery store the other day, in the zone. I was pushing my cart around with the squeaky wheel in and out of the aisles as quickly as possible, doing my normal market shopping. Can you tell I don’t like grocery shopping? For me, it’s a get in, get what I need, and get out event.
Anyhow, I was pulled out of my zone when I heard the words, “I CAN’T”. This declaration of certainty came from two women loudly discussing one of the women’s perceived inability to lose weight. I didn’t flash a look of utter disbelief, instead I kept my cool, smiled and walked on by.
I’m always stunned when I overhear the words “I Can’t.”
Seriously, I kept saying to myself, “This poor woman has already FAILED.” She had manifested the words into reality. She’s already written the end to her story right there in the grocery store. Her strong and emphatic “I Can’t” kept sticking with me like a thorn in my heel.
Of course, I don’t know, nor do I pretend to know how many times this woman had attempted to lose weight. And I definitely wasn’t passing judgment. It simply sounded like this goal was no longer a priority to her. It sounded like she had decided to give up. She had already quit, failed, and believed in her inability to achieve her goal.
Just like it happens for 99% of most people, this woman was already certain that losing weight was never going to be a reality for her. Most people refuse to get past their own excuses and old beliefs. I want to tell you to “Get Over Yourself.”
What I wanted to do was go back to that aisle in the supermarket grab her and shake some sense into her. I wanted to tell her to quit making excuses. I wanted to tell her what I’m telling you: Failure is temporary. It is a fight of perseverance. It’s about discovering who you are deep down inside.
Failure is about picking yourself up by the boot strap and doing whatever it is you’re doing however many times you must until you actually see the results you want manifested in your life.
What if you look at failure in a new light?
What if you decide right now that failure is the motivation to do things different?
What if you begin to believe and live like failure is perfection in progress?
What if you could learn how to fail effectively?
What if your goal was to fail spectacularly? At least you would be doing something and eventually you would get over that hump that appears to be failure and realize success!
I know the power of this mindset. I struggled, I scratched and clawed my way out of the deepest parts of my being. I believed I could do it. I had to manifest success into my mindset.
We have all experienced failure, whether big or small.
Try the recipe again that didn’t turn out so well the first time.
Strive to go above and beyond with that next work assignment.
Let failure fuel your fire.
Once you decide that these failures cannot hold you back, then you can keep pushing forward.
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It’s Me, Tina
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